Annabell, sit down. We need to have a talk.
Are you kidding me right now? I thought you were at least above something like this. Telling a rape victim, a SUICIDAL rape victim, that he’s ridiculous and to “just come to terms with it”, has got to be the most ignorant, fucked up thing you’ve said yet.
You’ve proven here that you don’t understand anything about the psychology behind rape or suicide. You are a spoiled, sheltered child, with a lot of opinions, and a lot to say about nothing. I really shouldn’t be surprised, given your history, but here we stand.
First, way to make his pain about you. You’ve successfully won the oppression olympics. Sure, you told him not to do it. Good job. Good for you. You then turned it around and made it about you, telling him to “get over it” and telling him to “just think rationally for a second”. I don’t agree with the “if this doesn’t get notes, I’m going to kill myself” mindset, but this person is expressing his pain to you, and you’ve essentially told him to go fuck himself. Because he’s male. Because, according to you, rape (or ‘abuse’, as you so love to belittle it to) of males, is somehow less traumatic than it is for female victims.
Rape is rape is rape is rape is rape is rape is rape. You’ve ignored this fact, dodged it, ran circles around it, but this needs to end. Stop ignoring it. The law and basic human logic and decency dictate that a crime is a crime, no matter who it happens to, and the logic you’ve used to dismiss the trauma of male victims is truly astounding in all the worst ways possible.
Second, and I can’t believe I actually have to point this out to you: telling a suicidal person to “just come to terms with it” is never NEVER okay. You have essentially told him to “get over it” because his trauma conflicts with YOUR view of the world. That’s some top notch cognitive dissonance you’re probably experiencing, but to blame him for his feelings over the trauma he endured is sickening. You are sickening.
Suicide is not “ridiculous” and it’s not “giving up” and that statement alone proves your complete ignorance about the entire issue. Instead of forming opinions on the spot, it would behoove you to do a little research about the issues you are addressing. I don’t even know where to begin addressing your ludicrous statement, so I will instead direct you to these links in the hopes that you will educate yourself.
Third, the hypocrisy of your statement is astounding. Disregarding that rape is, in fact not an ‘opinion’ one can have, you told him to come to terms with the fact that not everyone is going to agree with him, yet you’ve consistently belittled, berated, and outright dismissed people who have come to you with differing opinions.
Up until now, your childish antics have been an annoyance at most. You’ve gone out of your way to marginalize and alienate male rape victims, transgendered folk, gay men, and even a lot of ‘womyn’, and you’ve said some very nasty and cruel things.Thankfully, most people don’t actually take this garbage you spew to heart. You’ve become a joke. You’re a parody. When people think of you, you will always be remembered on here as “that girl who told the rape victim to just ‘get over it’” . I hope you’re satisfied with that.